Spilled
A private dating journal for women, built for noticing patterns before they cost you.
Dating apps remember everything except the part that matters: how someone actually treated you. Spilled is a private journal for that. After you see someone you jot down what happened and how it felt, tag the things worth remembering, and over a few weeks the patterns you would otherwise talk yourself out of start to show up on their own.
It is private by design. Your entries live on your phone, not on a feed, not on a profile, not shared with anyone. There is no social layer and no audience. It is a space to think clearly about your own dating life, for yourself.
What it does
Track every connection
Keep a separate thread for each person you are seeing, so you are not blending three different situations together in your head.
Tag-based pattern detection
Tag behaviors and feelings as you go. Spilled surfaces the patterns across people and dates so the recurring stuff becomes obvious instead of staying a vague feeling.
See your score trend over time
Watch how a connection changes across weeks rather than judging it one good or bad night at a time.
Private by default
Your journal stays on your device. No public profile, no sharing, no one reading over your shoulder.
Who it is for
- Women dating actively and seeing more than one person
- Anyone coming out of a relationship who wants to date more intentionally
- People who journal already and want a focused space for this part of life
Frequently asked questions
Is my journal private?
Yes. Entries are stored on your device and are not posted, shared, or visible to anyone else. There is no social feed.
How much does Spilled cost?
There is a free version with on-device journaling. Spilled Pro is $9.99 per month or $44.99 per year, and both come with a 7-day free trial.
What does Pro add?
Pro unlocks unlimited connections at once, personalized reads on every pattern, your score trend over time, a full timeline and pattern history, and a private shareable score card.
Does it use AI to analyze my dates?
Pattern detection is based on the tags you choose. Your private writing stays yours.
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